My husband was five years old when a drunk driver hit the car with his father and uncle in it. Tracy did not have his seat belt on, he was sitting on his father's lap. When he arrived at the hospital he told me that the doctors almost operated on him because his brain was swelling. After a period of time the swelling went away. He was in the hospital for four or five days and then released with a basic pat on the head that he would be fine and resume a normal boyish life. His head injury was a fractured skull behind his right ear. It wasn't until the early twenties of his life that he started having grand mal seizures. He was sent to a neurologist who at that point put him on dilantin to control the seizure activity. He did not have another seizure until a little time after that due to non-compliance of his meds.
So, when I met and fell in love with my husband I had no idea what was in store for me. My husband was married before and I came to find out that she went through the same verbal abuse and pain that I was at the time.
I am dealing with so much now. I have been trying to convince my husband to go to a neuropsychologist and get a neuropsch test done. He won't do it. We are in financial chaos due to my husband not dealing with payments on time, child support and IRS. He verbally abuses me. Whenever we argue there is no closure and no resolve. He looks at our discussions or arguments as competition between us. There is never any working things out and he ends up stomping away or saying abusive things to me. He says, "What are you so bent out of shape, they are only words." He is also in non-compliance of his medication for seizure control about eighty percent of the time. He drives a cab for a living. It is driving me up the wall.
Not only is he driving his passengers around but, his family and beautiful children too. I don't know where to turn. He wont get help and won't go for counselingI have already left him twice, the last time for over a year.
The hardest part of all this, I don't know if his parents would support my efforts to get Tracy tested. They supported me when I found evidence that he was using pot. We did go to his neurologist at the time. He said, "even if Tracy's behavior is a result of his TBI he still has to get help."
So, there it is in a nut shell. I am a strong ChristianI have been praying for this man in my life for a long time. How long does a person have to pray before they dry up and die inside? I am just about there now. The only thing that has really kept me going is the Lord, my beautiful child and you all in the chatroomthank-you, thank-you for your support and your great big computerized hugsI pray that one day.I can feel the hugs for real and meet all or alot of you. That is my dream, that is my wish.
Ciao.